He spends most of his free time writing, but to pay the mortgage (and to satisfy his extroverted needs) he also works as a hairdresser. In addition to cutting and coloring hair, Gregory also occasionally dispenses legal advice. His cosmetological services are expensive but the legal counsel is free. Each is worth what he charges. He doesn’t mind. For Gregory, every day feels like the first day of summer vacation.
Two decades ago, at the beginning of what should have been a promising legal career, Gregory and his wife owned a home and were starting to talk about how they were going to fill the empty bedrooms. Gregory had a job where he spent his days sitting at a big desk, in a big office, looking over an expanse of green legal folders. Every day he counted the minutes until he was free to leave. Often, when he heard the industrial beeping coming from the alley four stories down, he turned from his folders and watched the inverted dumpster disgorge its contents into the waiting truck below. He imagined he’d enjoy being a garbage man. Gregory was not very good at his job. It’s hard to be good at something you hate.
After a self-inflicted three year sentence, Gregory escaped the law by having a child. After a brief period of awkward negotiation he and his wife discovered she wanted to keep working while Gregory wanted desperately to quit. Gregory was excited. He was going to raise an army of sarcastic athletes; precocious, occasionally charming distance runners. He wanted four children, his wife wanted one. They compromised and had one. When Oscar arrived Gregory’s re-education began. If you know anything about children you understand what they can do to expectations. Six years at home with a child broke Lawyer Gregory. He learned to slow down, and eventually found the strength to jump off the treadmill he’d been trying to outrun.
Gregory did the only logical thing. He went to Cosmetology school and became a hairdresser.
Gregory has a curious life.
Gregory has a BA in history from the College of William & Mary, a JD from Arizona State University, and a Masters of Cosmetology Degree from the Paul Mitchell School of Atlanta. He and his wife have been married for twenty years and have a son, Oscar, as well as two cats, Curly and Mo. Gregory stayed home with Oscar for the first six years of his life and has worked as a hairdresser in Atlanta for over a decade.
is my memoir of how I left a career in law and became a hairdresser. The narrative covers my time at a metro Atlanta cosmetology school as well as the earlier parts of my career. Of course I also delve into the forces that pushed me into such an unusual change of circumstance in the first place. I have found strange synergies between parenting, the law, and hairdressing.
Virgin Hair
"Engrossing from the first page, Virgin Hair goes beyond the trials and tribulations of a novice hairdresser to become about something much more—who we are and how we decide to spend our limited time on Earth. Read this if you want all the feels!"
Author of Green Island (Knopf Doubleday),
American Book Award Winner, 2017
“A memoir of a straight, former jock of a dad leaning toward middle-aged who dives headlong into the world of hairdressing to make a buck? Is this for real? Yes it is, and the ride Virgin Hair takes the reader on is both hilarious and refreshing. Dobrasz’s writing is crisp and tight, the scenes and characters fully realized and endlessly fascinating. This is a book for anyone who ever felt a little lost in life and wondered if they were bold enough to start over. It hooks you from the beginning and never lets you go.”
Author of The Dagger Quick (Simon & Schuster),
Georgia Author of the Year Award Winner, 2014
"Virgin Hair is a jewel of a book by a master raconteur. Greg Dobrasz has a serious side though. The protagonist of Virgin Hair is an Individualist who lives and practices Individualism, which is part of why he abandoned the strictures of law for hairdressing. Quickly we learn, of course, that professional hairdressing is a hotbed of individualism. Why did we not already know this? It’s a world of people who are very much themselves, fixing the hair of other one-off individuals by touch. Some readers may wish they’d had this idea themselves. And maybe it’s never really too late. We think we know our hair. Maybe not very well, though. It’s on the side of the head opposite our eyes. We only see it backward, in mirrors. Hair gets misunderstood and mistreated. Greg understands this. Meanwhile hilarity inevitably ensues. Not all of it is predictable. Some of it is unforgettable. I read Virgin Hair straight through with fascination, and came away hoping for a sequel."
Author of Shad River, Dark & Other Stories, The Southern Skylark, and The Adventures of Reese Macaque, P.I.
MFA | University of Virginia
Recipient of the Hoyns Fellowship
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